tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1595859314129335086.post2164018791556833735..comments2023-05-26T07:27:18.007-07:00Comments on What Now?: On the Other HandLulu McCabehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10002084871872201948noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1595859314129335086.post-28282502862445709012010-02-09T18:23:05.446-08:002010-02-09T18:23:05.446-08:00I thought you needed some sunshine so I gave you a...I thought you needed some sunshine so I gave you an award. Stop by http://marythemom-mayhem.blogspot.com/2010/02/and-now-for-something-completely.html to pick it up.<br /><br />Hugs and prayers,<br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1595859314129335086.post-81466722854428459472010-02-04T09:12:29.214-08:002010-02-04T09:12:29.214-08:00Oh yes, totally with you on that book. It doesn...Oh yes, totally with you on that book. It doesn't work for me in its entirety, but I agree that understanding the fear is so helpful! We learned early on that when he is angry or upset, we need to stay right there with him. He'll often sit just inches away from us when he's mad. At first it was a little discomfiting, but what he's doing is trying to stay connected even through his rage because he so fears being abandoned. Until he's assured that we're not going to leave him we can't get anywhere. <br /><br />Let me know how you deal with the PTSD and school. I really feel for him - the environment doesn't do much to put kids like him at ease.Lulu McCabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10002084871872201948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1595859314129335086.post-80029790159492366572010-02-03T17:50:34.031-08:002010-02-03T17:50:34.031-08:00Oooh so been there done that! Have you read Beyon...Oooh so been there done that! Have you read Beyond Consequences Logic and Control by Post and Forbes? I don't agree with everything they say, but the major premise is that there are 2 primary emotions - Love and Fear. We have to help calm them and get over the fear before we can even think of giving them consequences. Sounds like you've got this figured out.<br /><br />Definitely sounds like PTSD at school. We're going throught the same things with our son.<br /><br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1595859314129335086.post-4102118376535432732010-01-29T18:49:31.338-08:002010-01-29T18:49:31.338-08:00isn't love amazing? thank you for reflecting y...isn't love amazing? thank you for reflecting your love so beautifully here.M and Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00557944772547796979noreply@blogger.com